Thank you for this great post; I relate so much to what you've written. 🙏🏻 Ironically, what has worked for me, Ximena, is SCHEDULING rest. I have an iCal called "Whitespace" and timebox 2-4 hours daily to NOT schedule anything, take life as it comes (and, yes, I must practice not defaulting to leveraging it as "backup time" for everything I wanted to get done that day yet didn't 🤓). The second thing is scheduling time to be of service to others. For me, this has included volunteering for a self-leadership tribe I love. I support the network with consulting, connecting with new members, video editing -- all that I can. As self-employed folk, we're often in job-hunting mode and it is so easy to always be contemplating "what else can I / should I be doing for my business?" When you're the PRODUCT + the MANAGER + the MARKETING TEAM + the BOARD, we are continually focused on ourselves. Being of service to others helps me take my mind off of "me" -- and that helps me rest -- even if just mentally -- for a few hours per week.
What great tips here! I especially love the note about volunteering. Helping others has benefits for all parties, and it's great to hear that serves as a restful break for you.
Even though I am in my mid 20s and have yet to carry the caregiving responsibilities of marriage and parenthood, there's a lot in common with your experience with accepting the notion of "rest" as a fundamental right,
But I am lucky that I have got a joint family and there are KIDS. Those cute little human creatures just reminded me what it means to just be. Have you observed a 3 years old eating chocolates? You feel joyful. And I think when you spend enough of your time around joyfulness, It strengthens your neural system and restore your energy
Hey Ximena, thanks for this post. Well, I can't agree more. I have been in a similar situation. And picked up gardening in my spare time. Taking care and growing them has helped keep me away from "non-working" anxieties.
I also started counseling inorder to really understand how I can truly attain happiness in a long-term sustainable way. Even this helped a lot and after two sessions I feel like I can choose the future by design. Though I still have to action on all things for a year or two to really see a difference. But I am glad I started this journey during the pandemic.
Thank you for this great post; I relate so much to what you've written. 🙏🏻 Ironically, what has worked for me, Ximena, is SCHEDULING rest. I have an iCal called "Whitespace" and timebox 2-4 hours daily to NOT schedule anything, take life as it comes (and, yes, I must practice not defaulting to leveraging it as "backup time" for everything I wanted to get done that day yet didn't 🤓). The second thing is scheduling time to be of service to others. For me, this has included volunteering for a self-leadership tribe I love. I support the network with consulting, connecting with new members, video editing -- all that I can. As self-employed folk, we're often in job-hunting mode and it is so easy to always be contemplating "what else can I / should I be doing for my business?" When you're the PRODUCT + the MANAGER + the MARKETING TEAM + the BOARD, we are continually focused on ourselves. Being of service to others helps me take my mind off of "me" -- and that helps me rest -- even if just mentally -- for a few hours per week.
What great tips here! I especially love the note about volunteering. Helping others has benefits for all parties, and it's great to hear that serves as a restful break for you.
Hello Ximena. Great article!
Even though I am in my mid 20s and have yet to carry the caregiving responsibilities of marriage and parenthood, there's a lot in common with your experience with accepting the notion of "rest" as a fundamental right,
But I am lucky that I have got a joint family and there are KIDS. Those cute little human creatures just reminded me what it means to just be. Have you observed a 3 years old eating chocolates? You feel joyful. And I think when you spend enough of your time around joyfulness, It strengthens your neural system and restore your energy
Yes, nothing beats witnessing the wonder of a small child! A good reminder to look to the here and now for restorative moments.
Hey Ximena, thanks for this post. Well, I can't agree more. I have been in a similar situation. And picked up gardening in my spare time. Taking care and growing them has helped keep me away from "non-working" anxieties.
I also started counseling inorder to really understand how I can truly attain happiness in a long-term sustainable way. Even this helped a lot and after two sessions I feel like I can choose the future by design. Though I still have to action on all things for a year or two to really see a difference. But I am glad I started this journey during the pandemic.
Gardening sounds so lovely, and yes, therapy is huge! I'm glad you are finding ways to rest and take a break. Good luck!